My last post on 1 January gave insight into my contemplative state as I navigate my way through to reach the same age as my Mum at the time of her death. As I’ve said before, birthdays are for gratitude, and Mr T celebrated his
recently which spurred me out of my writing hiatus.

 

RobynWrites was born.

I’ve also been mulling over the use of the title The Girl Who God Told To Wait for a while. The past few months have increasingly felt as though it has been a ‘hindrance’ to my personal progress. I fully believe the power of words and labelling and whilst I still identify with the essence of that period in my life, I’ve now moved beyond.  I’m no longer waiting. I’m living. This necessitated the change of my blog; to reflect my life and reality more broadly. 


RobynWrites was born.


Most of us struggle with the things that are ‘missing’ in our lives. How many of us can unreservedly say we have all we need? The truth is that most of us are
hankering after something. A partner/spouse/lover. A child/another child/a
girl/a boy. A new job/career/successful business. More money/no debt. There’s a
myriad of permutations that more or less flow from these broad categories.


At the heart of it all is acceptance. Self-acceptance. All of these ‘wants’ are external to the essence of our being. None of these influence our spirit; the soul that inhabits our human form.  I’ve yet to test the theory, but apparently more money brings added tax headache, unknown family members crawling out the woodwork, substituting quality time with our loved ones with the things that money can buy, and unsatiated needs for more and more. But I’m willing to take that test *wink wink*. That’s my current ‘missing link’. But it wasn’t always so.


You see, it started off with the longing to be coupled. Check. Then the wanting a child, a family. Check. We’re now a happy foursome. Then the need to explore my passion and purpose. What really makes me happy. It’s what Maslow refers to as ‘self-actualisation’. No check. As yet.

You’re exactly where you need to be. In this moment.

From the outside looking in, I have it all. And I do have it all. The dissonance comes from my own internal value system or rather, measurement criteria. I’m the only one who needs to believe it. The same goes for you. Wherever you are in your life. Whatever you believe is ‘missing’. It’s a self-destructive yearning that will never be quelled. You’re exactly where you need to be. In this moment.


I’ve come to accept that I love my solitude, but I’m exuberant when I’m around #MyTribe. When I’m making authentic connection. When I’m motivating; not managing. When I’m sharing my truth to help someone else, in whatever way. Honestly, it fuels me more than it feeds them. I walk away feeling energised, like I have all that I need. Isn’t that it? All we need is connection. Love and connection.


May you find the love within to share with the world. And no need for anything else.